Listen up: This is how to find a roommate (that you actually like)

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Finding a roommate can be a tricky ol’ business. Once you've found a rental apartment, the next step is to find that perfect person to live with. The issue is that there’s a lot to think about and consider from how much space you each need and your schedules, to what you can both afford to pay each month and the location.

The stress of finding a roommate aside, the great thing about having someone (who you actually like and get along with, obvi) to live with is the fact that it can make your life easier, happier, and more convenient. The fact is, that there are a hell of a lot of benefits to having a roommate, from reducing your living expenses to making managing chores and household tasks easier. 

Actually finding a roommate isn’t always a simple task tho. In fact, it can be downright stressful. But once you're done apartment hunting, it's time to move in your roomie and begin setting everything up. Just don't forget your first apartment checklist for everything you need to buy!

There are a range of steps that you can take to make the process of finding a roommate a little easier (and less stressful). 

How to find a roommate

Wondering what it takes to find a roommate that you actually like? We promise you, it is possible. The key to success is in how you approach the task, that’s all. And, with that in mind, we’ve put together a few handy tips to make the process of sourcing a roommate (that you actually get on with) a little easier. 

Give yourself enough time

Look, we get it, you want to find a place and a roommate as quickly as possible so that you can move in. But the worst thing that you can do when it comes to finding a roommate is to rush the process. Don’t just decide to move in with the first person who shows an interest. Instead, take your time and make sure that you’re moving in with someone who is a good fit for you and your lifestyle. Honestly, it’s so much better to take your time and actually find a roommate that is a good match for you. Rush the process and you'll only end up regretting it and wishing you found a better roommate or lived alone

Think about what’s important to you  

It’s also important to think about what’s important to you from a roommate. Ask yourself, what you want and need from the person you share your home with. After all, one person’s ideal roommate is another person’s nightmare. Think about the things that matter most to you. For instance, are you a vegan who prefers not to smell meat being cooked? If so, you might want to find a roommate who also follows a plant-based diet. Do you have a pet who will be sharing your home? Finding someone who is an animal lover will be a must. Take the time to be clear about what matters most to you. 

Utilize your network

A good starting place to find your dream roomie can often be with people you know. Speak to friends and colleagues and explain that you’re looking for a roommate and ask them if they might know of anyone who might be interested. Honestly, word of mouth goes a seriously long way. A friend of mine needed a roommate, she chatted to a few co-workers and it turned out that one of them had a niece who was looking for a new place, which worked out perfectly. As well as chatting with people you know in person, it’s also worth sharing a post or two on social media (both on your personal feeds and in any local groups). 

Ask good questions 

When it comes to interviewing potential roommates, it’s important that you take the time to ask plenty of questions. It might seem a little personal to start asking someone you barely know questions about their finances and their lifestyle but if you’re going to live together it’s important that you have a clear view of all the key factors that are crucial when it comes to sharing an apartment. 

What questions should you ask?

  • Why are you looking for a new roommate?
  • What did you like and dislike about your previous setup?
  • What are the top three qualities you’re looking for in a roommate?
  • How long do you anticipate living here?
  • What’s your day-to-day schedule like?
  • What hours do you work?
  • Do you like to cook?
  • What are your cleaning habits like?
  • Are you an organized person?
  • Do you like to be social with your roommate?
  • Do you smoke?
  • Do you have any pets?
Beth Mahoney
Freelance journalist

Hi! I’m Beth Mahoney and I’m a former staff writer at Real Homes. I’ve been a journalist for the national press for the past six years, specializing in commerce and trends-related lifestyle articles, from product reviews and listicles to guides and features. With an eye for pretty things (think: quirky wall prints, scalloped edge furniture, and decadent-looking tableware) but a limited budget, I love nothing more than a bargain buy.